“A characteristic of the normal child is he doesn’t act that way very often.”
It can be hard to say no to your kids, especially when they’re pleading with you that a new toy will make them popular and that their out of date video game systems cause them to be bullied. But sometimes it’s necessary to draw a line, both to teach children basic values like avoiding greed and to protect yourself from poverty! Here’s when you should say no and when you should splurge.
Fashion
If, however, your child is asking for a new pair of jeans every week or insists that he must have more shoes than all the other kids in his class combined, it’s time to set some boundaries. Limit her clothing purchases to what she absolutely needs. If she still wants more, she’ll need to earn money via extra chores, a summer job or baby-sitting.
Technology
Most pre-teens have cellular phones nowadays, and it’s not unreasonable to get your child a phone, particularly if he is away from home a lot. A cell phone provides you with security that your child is safe, making it a worthwhile investment.
If you child is pleading for a smartphone, however, this is another matter. Smartphones provide your child with virtually unlimited access to the internet with very little supervision. He can also run up an exorbitant bill. If your child wants a smartphone, he’ll need to pay for it himself.
Similarly, mp3 players are luxury items, but can keep your child busy on long car rides and other boring waiting periods. If your child wants an mp3 player, assess whether the benefit to you will outweigh the financial cost.
Media
If your child’s whining for the latest video game console, consider getting her a new video game instead. It’s cheaper and is just as likely to keep her entertained. Similarly, your child doesn’t need an endless library of movies and music, but should have access to some. If your child’s consumption of media exceeds what you can afford, make her start saving her money to buy it herself.
Bedroom and Decorations
If, however, your child is constantly asking for new furniture, new closet space and a bigger house, take him shopping with you and allow him to see how expensive these items are. If he still wants them, he can save up his own money.
Author: Christobel Edwards lives in London. She became a grandmother two years ago, and views this as an important next chapter in life, although she’s slowly learning to keep her mouth shut! She loves getting presents for her grandchild and recently bought her bunkbeds with drawers.